If you have the gift of calm, take a moment to appreciate it and then extend that outward toward the world. Also, find a way to create joy, in my independent study of one, singing at the top of your lungs even if you’re off key helps, but you know whatever works for you. Enjoy the calm!
Read MoreI don’t understand why society says we have to be this or that, or why it has to be black or white. What is wrong with grey? I’m not great at living in the greys of life but I do appreciate them, and dare I say it, I am growing fond of the grey. It means that the best is still yet to come and I can yell “plot twist” and re-write my story at any given moment.
Read MoreI just have to be better about recognizing when to Eb and when to let it flow. But hooray for living, hooray for being able to experience this, all of this! The pain that leads us to a deeper appreciation for life, to be present and just enjoy it.
Read MoreDespite all that I have been through I am almost certain that there will be other obstacles for me to overcome and I GET TO experience it all. It’s a privilege to be alive and I’m HERE for it!
Read MoreI don’t know how we got to this notion of having to have it all figured out in T-minus 30 seconds. Some of the precedents we model our lives after are a bit unrealistic when we should model our lives on what works for us, not society or an entity. All I know is, that whatever comes, I am so ready for it!
Read MoreAdulthood is funny though, that’s for sure. In a way, I do feel like I’m regressing. I’m having more fun & feeling more fulfilled and comfortable in this skin. My body on the other hand has sent me some warning signs, still, I’m grateful. If only life came with a manual or some sort of guidebook, but then again I’ve never really followed the rules per se, I’ve always made my own.
Read MoreAll of which I write in hopes that this also helps you to trust the divine timing of your life. Yes, life is messy as I have previously mentioned in my other posts but to quote Yung Pueblo (2022), “Maturity is when you’re able to finally ride the ups and downs of life without getting tossed around by them. You don’t expect everything to be perfect, you know change is a constant, you don’t judge yourself when times get hard and you live in gratitude and you enjoy the good when it’s here”.
Read MoreI have learned above all else it’s about patience. Patience with the process and yourself. And even patience with healing. In the words of Jacob Riis, “When nothing seems to help I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at a rock, perhaps a hundred without so much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow, it will split in two, and I know it was not the last blow that did it, but all that had gone before.”
Read MoreWhoever may be reading this, I see you and I get you my brother/sister/friend (whichever label works for you, ps: I hate labels) and we’re in this together. I’ve reached the point of my life where yes I want to be challenged and questioned. I want to stare my fears in the face and do things that scare me, why? Because it’s the only way out or the only way in which (I have found) that we grow.
Read MoreI promise that everything you could ever want is on the other side of this. I also need to remind myself of this too. More than anything you MUST stay in love, love with life, in love with yourself! Yes, it is the harder choice and it is easier to abandon ship and run away from the pain, run away from the difficulty or run away from confronting yourself. But why not upgrade? Why not choose differently?
Read MoreWhatever narrative you’re speaking to yourself, if it’s not helping you then change your tune. You are all you have! In the words of Mama RuPaul, “If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else? Can I get an Amen in here?” She’s right, admit it!
Read MoreAnd at this moment, when I think about life’s unknowns or how much I want to be reactive to certain things, it serves me no good. I could instead spend that energy on things that are working out, the things that are going right in my life. For if we search for what we’re looking for, we usually find that we have MORE than enough. I choose to surround myself with those that want to be surrounded by me.
Read MoreIt’s going to work out, it always gets better and you’ll get to where you need to be in due time. TRUST that. I don’t know who I’m writing for but there will come a day when you’ll look back and realize that your dreams are no longer dreams, in fact, they will become reality. What are you speaking over yourself?
Read MoreThis stops now. Let people be who they are, you can either accept it or not, but DON’T you dare dim someone else’s light just because you can’t handle it. If something irks you about them, then perhaps look inside and figure out what needs to change within. Often there is our answer when something bothers us. I’ve also learned that how people meet us is in direct correlation to how much they’ve met or dealt with themselves.
Read MoreThe truth is, we’re stronger than we think we are. We’re braver than we think we are and more importantly, we are beautiful human beings worthy of love. I will say that true love and wholeness begin with loving yourself first.
Read MoreWhere is the fun in knowing it all, or doing it all by ourselves? Do you know how much pressure that adds? An unnecessary amount. We cannot face today’s battles with yesterday’s mindset.
Read MoreIt’s a new year, a new beginning. A time to do the thing or things we’ve always wanted to do. I know for many we’ve set some pretty lofty goals for ourselves and that’s a wonderful thing. The question becomes are we going to be kind to ourselves in the midst of pursuing our heart’s desire?
Read MoreHowever, I’m still human. We all are, but can we just take a moment to come together in love and light? Celebrate success, celebrate each other’s wins? Pick each other back up when we fall? If you got me then I got you! Let’s remember to stay kind, humble, and go forward in love and light.
Read More“everything is meaningless until we give it meaning…we often think we have to assign something meaning to be able to understand.” What are you giving meaning to? What are definitions are you applying? What are you saying to yourself? The worst thing you can do is, be against yourself.
Read MoreFor all the things that I have accomplished, it all began with the thought and belief that I could do it. Conversely, all the things I have yet to do I am working on finding the strength to do them.
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